I watched an Oliver Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff

My Moment Of Clarity

In 2013 I realized that I was more afraid of success than being homeless. I went to another city for a job opportunity but it didn’t work. For several months, I spent my day with homeless people, illegals immigrants, good-for nothing people and drug addicts. All type of people that society puts aside and forgetting.

At first, I didn’t like this situation but over time I adapted and they accepted me. Now I think about it, I really learned to be a hustler with them. I mainly earned money with people from Africa (Nigeria, Ghana, Mali, Senegal, Congo, etc.) and people from Eastern Europe (Lithuania, Poland, Russia, etc). Often I was fighting on the street because people thought I was a nice little black boy. I train everyday at the gym. I ate 5 times a day. I had my laptop and I had 2 prepaid mobile phone.

But most of all, I felt free because I didn’t have a lot of bills to pay at the end of the month and I still had cash. There was not a days when my bank account was in the red and I promise you that it’s good.

Success in my team

In my team, there was a Congolese (I don’t say his name because he was a illegal immigrants). He had 4 children with 2 different women in another country and at the end of each month he asked me to have ideas to make more money. He was fed up with this situation, fed up with receiving welfare money that treated him like shit. He wanted to return to Congo and create a company. Now it’s cool, he has a good situation in Congo.

There was a Senegalese. He had a wife, a child and he worked at the airport. One day he lost his job at the airport and I don’t know all the details, but he lost everything. He couldn’t find work and his wife left him and kept the child. His wife didn’t want him to see his child, but she asked him for money. You see, a classic story.

This Senegalese told me that he needed more money because he was fed up with welfare that treated him as an illegal immigrant while he worked and paid his taxes like everyone else. He wanted more money to return to Senegal and start his own company. We worked well together and now he as a good situation in Senegal.

A few days after he left for Senegal, I watched a Gary Vaynerchuk’s video about building a legacy. Boom, I realized that I was more afraid of being rich that being poor because all my childhood I was in a middle classe environment or lower what had become my comfort zone. And my father often told me that I could never be rich.

Fear of success

With my blog, I see that on internet, there are people who could have more success but they blocked. They’re stuck because of their state of mind because technically they are competent.

There are bloggers who have a good traffic and an email list that grew from day to day but as soon as they have to offer a paid service/product, they block.

This blockage is the fear of success. The fear of success is a fear of change. Definitely leaving the comfort zone for something else. If you succeed you will make more money but it will also change your life outside and the perception of yourself.

To be afraid is not something bad because it allows us to be attentive to everything, to have all our senses at their maximum capacity. You need to be attentive to everything when you’re in a unknown area.

Fear of failure is embedded in fear of success

But when you’re afraid of success, you are not only afraid of success. There are other fears that add to the fear of success. With the fear of success, you are also afraid of failure.

Think seriously about that. When you feel that you will succeed, it also means that you may fail. The worst time to fail is when you think you can succeed because it’s more painful. It more painful that doing something that is lost in advance.

It’s really comfortable to stay in your comfort zone, complain and do nothing.

This is the end of the 1^st part. In 2^nd part, I would speak about the fear of rejection which is also in the fear of success.

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-Steph